Some people are better than others at making new friends. And I mean friends, not acquaintances. I am having trouble in that department at the moment. I thank God that I get to meet quite a number of people but I feel like I don't know how to make new friends. How to start from scratch- eh! Its not easy being the only person in a group who doesn't know anybody. Having a husband helps. Sometimes I find that I am upset with people who share names with my friends back home but are not the ones! Maybe it is hard because I think about it and I am conscious of the fact that I need to make friends. Am I being impatient? Most of my friendships took years to build maybe I am asking for too much too soon. I guess it is just hard coming from knowing very many people to this.
One of my friends back home used to get excited about making new friends because they provided a new platform for her kaboozi(stories). Her old friends would have heard them repeatedly and stopped realising how funny and rich her jazz was- something new friends would appreciate.
Well, many people here ask how we met (my husband and I). Many of my old friends are bored with the story because they have been hearing about my husband long before we even started dating. People here wonder because he had been living in Bulaaya for years; he left and returned with a wife. When telling the story(the abridged version), I say that we knew each other from childhood because of friendship between our families and our relationship grew until marriage was clearly the next step. Once I was having dinner with someone who asked, 'So it was arranged?' That's when I realised how our story sounded!
It sounded like my husband had come to Africa, got a bride to whom he had been betrothed as a child and brought her back to Bulaaya to save her from poverty or whatever!
Anyway, just to set the record straight, our marriage was not arranged! We were in love before our wedding and knew each other's names.
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LOL! FUNNY...anyway, I guess this blog will be how i learn my Luganda
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ReplyDeleteu must have been getting funny faces as an excited u was telling the story..kumbe pple were thinkging other things
LOL first of all I rate it was unknowingly arranged by Aunty Stella :P haha
ReplyDeleteSecondly, having moved cities quite a number of times, I know how hard it is to make friends. You seem like me, you immediately want a "deep" friendship. I think the best way to approach it is to make lots and lots of acquaintances. Gradually you'll realise who's in it for the long run and who isn't and you filter the acquaintances out slowly and convert the ones you wanna keep into friends :)
All the best Grace :) You'll be alright :)
u know something Grace, you are not alone. making friends while living abroad is very difficult... am starting my blog soon and hopefully we can share how to make this easier for us and others... blessings!
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