I can't choose for you!

Sometimes that thought is comforting and other times it is overwhelming and burdensome!

Its comforting when watching someone who has to chose between two difficult options. For example: to take very difficult medication that drains energy with heaps of side effects that is expensive and might not work.. versus to let the disease take its natural course and die :-(

But there are times when I think of..
The very obese man who is puffing away at a cigarette. Does he know that he is at double risk for like ten different diseases that I can think of off-head? Atherosclerosis, Stroke, Ischaemic heart disease, Cancers:lung, oesophageal, pancreatic etc, peptic ulcer disease and reflux oesophagitis, Diabetes and Hypertension????

The 13 year old giggling in the dark corner with a young lad. Does she know that even she could get pregnant and that could really change her life? That early sex is  risk factor for cancer of the cervix? That there are many teenagers who were born with HIV so even if she is his first sexual partner she can get HIV from him?

The friend fighting hard to keep a relationship with a guy who has already moved on but didn't have the courtesy to tell her. He doesn't call or text or see her, she continues to try.

My children(who all have names by-the-way!) who will be born into this world with all its confusions and perversions...

I cant choose for you! We all know it always seems easier to choose for other people than to do it for ourselves. Its easier to watch someone else and wonder how they can do this or that or the other but somehow, we fail to realise that we, in one way or another are doing or have done similar misguided and wrong things before.

I just sometimes wish that we didn't have to choose. That all the possible bad/wrong choices could somehow be eliminated from the population. That there would be no guns so they could never ever get in the hands of teenagers or people trying to kill their friends. That on your wedding day, you suddenly get 'private parts' which disappear when you walk out of the house and only reappear when you are with your spouse. That life was like an exam which instead of having objectives A to E just had A only.. Kubanga  life can be soooo confusing!

And yet when I think about it, this is one of the reasons we looked forward to being 'adults'. We liked to wake up and instead of being told what the plan for the day was, we could pick up a magazine and decide what we would do that day. We looked forward to this! (Oba why?)

I have often wondered why there was forbidden fruit in the garden of Eden. Why did God have to show them fruit which they shouldn't eat? Why not do away with it or hide it in heaven  from them? It was thus then as it is now; they had to choose.

We have to choose. Even God doesn't present His way only. He shows us His way and lets us choose Him. I guess knowing that there are other girls but my husband chose me kinda adds a bit of value to our relationship. I guess if I was the only girl and he came to me, I would probably never really know if he wanted to be with me or if he just kinda had to.